I want to tell you about something a client said to me recently, because I think a lot of people quietly feel this way:
“I struggled .lose weight. all my adult life. I feel like I’m failing at something that should be easy.”
If you’ve struggled to get in shape before, you may know that same feeling.
It can sneak in and make everything feel personal.
Love you problem. Like “if I had more energy”, things would be better.
But here’s the thing:
You don’t fail at something that should be easy.
He strives to do something that is difficult for everyone.
And that difference makes a big difference.
The difference
When you step back and look at the actual evidence, being in the situation is not easy.
Not losing weight.
Not to build muscle.
Not sticking to habits.
Why? Because we do it all within the deck stacking system:
And that’s just for us outside the environment.
If we look under the hood, each person has different levels .the sound of food., .enjoying exercise.injury history, etc.
We don’t all play on a level playing field – and that playing field was already challenging to begin with!
I am not saying this to make you feel hopeless.
On the contrary:
It is only by acknowledging the real issues that we can make a plan on how to stop them.
Here’s a simple two-step method you can use to do just that.
Step 1: Gather Evidence
An important part of rewriting a narrative is gathering evidence to the contrary.
That he is the kind of person who shows up.
Take a moment each day to highlight whenever you take action that aligns with your goals.
✅ If you do a .a short workout. instead of not exercising on a crazy day
✅ If you build a .balanced plate. at mealtime
✅ If you add a few more repetitions to your work
Write it down in a notebook. Send a message to a friend. Place the marble in your hand .jar of horrors..
This is one of the most important aspects of our life .Training program..
People need to see signs of progress. They need to be reassured that what they are doing is working.
That starts with highlighting the actions you take that move you toward your goals.
From there, we can go a little deeper into the target.
Step 2: Narrow the Target
If you feel stuck and like nothing is working, it’s natural to want to try to change all things, all at once!
I encourage you to resist that.
Instead, find out more laser-focused.
In my 15 years of coaching, great progress is coming .to reduce number of items. one should be concerned. They don’t add much to their to-do list.
Because focus creates consistency.
If you know what the first goal of the day is, you’re more likely to tackle it than if you have a list of 10 things that feel important, all the time.
If they are all very important, none of them are important.
Narrowing your focus not only improves consistency and reduces overload, it helps you learn what really moves the needle for you.
You don’t have to guess whether something is working or not – just do it regularly and you can see the results for yourself!
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So here is the thought I want you to train:
Instead of:
“I failed in something that should be easy.”
Try:
“I strive to do something that is difficult for almost everyone – and I still show.”
That reframe is empty.
It is usable.
It gets you out of shame and into problem solving. It allows you to track your progress there is to do. And it opens up the space to decide what your next step really is.
And that’s the whole game:
Show.
Gather evidence.
Reduce focus.
Repeat.
You do that long enough, and the identity you build becomes something that takes you forward.
If you want help finding your “one thing” for this week, reply to this email. I’m here.
– Math
